As I sit here and think about my perfect girl, several thoughts go through my head. One is that I should be sleeping. Another is that I have a hard time focusing on something when I’m hungry. Another is a list of things that comprise my “perfect” girl.
I can sit here and name off a list of things and “qualifications” that I might have for a girl. I admit, I want to live in the mountains or at the least in a small town by them, and would love for her to want the same. I could say that I want here to love games as much as I do, or to love the outdoors. To not be afraid of work or getting dirty, to love hiking and rock climbing, to love swing dancing. I could say all of those things, but in reality they don’t matter. Stuff and things like that are trivial. There are two things my perfect girl must have. The first and foremost is a love of God and Jesus Christ and to have the same faith in them that I do. The second you could say is like unto it. I want her to love me in the same way in which I’ll love her. I want to love her with all of my heart. Other than that, it doesn’t matter. Do I want her to be beautiful? Yes. I don’t want to love her though because she is beautiful. I want her to be beautiful because I love her. I don’t want to love her because we like the same things. I want to love the things that she loves, to support her in every way. In life, we focus too much on the things. We rule people out in our minds because they don’t meet the criteria that we set up. I believe that love, true love surpasses that. There is a quote from a blackberry ad that came out a couple of years ago that is fitting:
“Like is watered-down love. Like is mediocre. Like is the wishy-washy emotion of the content. Athletes don’t do it for the like of a sport. Artists don’t suffer for the like of art. There is no I Like N.Y. T-shirt. And Romeo didn’t just like Juliet. LOVE. Now that’s powerful stuff. Love changes things. Upsets things. Conquers things. Love is at the root of everything good that has ever happened and will ever happen.”
Love surpasses all understanding. We may not ever fully understand why we love someone. We try though, try to fit it into our boxes of understanding, try to define the things we like about them, but when it comes right down to it, we love them for WHO they are, not what they like or what they do. We love them for being them, and that love is glorious. I have yet another quote, this one from the movie Stardust. I like it a lot and find it fitting:
“Yvaine: You know when I said I knew little about love? That wasn't true. I know a lot about love. I've seen it, centuries and centuries of it, and it was the only thing that made watching your world bearable. All those wars. Pain, lies, hate... It made me want to turn away and never look down again. But when I see the way that mankind loves... You could search to the furthest reaches of the universe and never find anything more beautiful. So yes, I know that love is unconditional. But I also know that it can be unpredictable, unexpected, uncontrollable, unbearable and strangely easy to mistake for loathing, and... What I'm trying to say, Tristan is... I think I love you. Is this love, Tristan? I never imagined I'd know it for myself. My heart... It feels like my chest can barely contain it. Like it's trying to escape because it doesn't belong to me any more. It belongs to you. And if you wanted it, I'd wish for nothing in exchange - no gifts. No goods. No demonstrations of devotion. Nothing but knowing you loved me too. Just your heart, in exchange for mine.”
And that is how I feel. I want to find someone to love, who will love me in return. Who wont care about the mistakes I’ve made and the ones yet to come. That will be able to stand by me through thick and thin, life and death, good and bad times. I want to be able to be that person for them as well, to be their best friend, their boyfriend, and husband. I want them to know that they are my everything and that I will do everything I can to help them be happy forever. Not just the happiness the world knows, but TRUE happiness, to have the kind of love that is in fairy tales, the kind of love that my Father has for my Mother. I know there will be hardships and trials, but love and joy is the journey, not the destination.
So in conclusion, I have one more quote:
“You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.”
Don’t focus on finding the perfect person, instead focus on being the best you that you can be, so that when that person does come along, you can love them perfectly despite any imperfections that either of you may have. So my perfect girl? The one I can love with all of my heart and who will do the same in return. :)
